Breaking The Mold

I read a quote not long ago that really resonated with me, and I assume more people than just me need to hear it. It said " Every next level of your life will require a different version of you."

I had made a mold for myself growing up of things I should do, or be for whatever reason: society? parents? But as I grow up I slowly realize it was just that, a mold I made, and no one else. There are often times when I think of myself as a hypocrite, comparing what I used to think to what I think and do now. But the truth is, change is inevitable. Accepting this fact and accepting that as my life changes, my thoughts and feelings will also change with it is freeing and honestly realistic.

When I became a mom, my entire life as I knew it changed, and since that time I have struggled with my self identity to a small degree. I am not saying that you need to have kids in order to change, life throws many different curve balls at people that will provoke change. Mine just happened to be moving, my husband finally starting his career after over ten years of schooling, and me going from working three jobs to being a SAHM all at the same time. Some of these big changes thankfully, have brought out the better in me. I feel my base level of happiness is higher, I am more thankful for the people closest to me, I judge less and try to help more, and slowly but surely I get better at expressing my feelings haha. Chris may have something to say about that one, but I think I am improving! And here I think is the key: be open to change, open to improving as no one is perfect, and be open to life's possibilities. If you hold yourself in a mold that you've made for yourself, that is exactly where you will stay, and the best parts of life will pass right by you.

So for anyone who needs to read these right now... here are some of my favourite quotes about change, and since we celebrated Mother's day this past month, motherhood.

"You are not the same mother you were yesterday. Your child is not the same child they were yesterday. You are both learning. You are both growing." - Scary Mommy

"To improve is to change, to be perfect is to change often." - Winston Churchill

"Intelligence is the ability to adapt to change." -Stephen Hawking

"I stopped explaining myself when I realized people only understand from their level of perception." -unknown

"Being a mother is learning about strengths you didn't know you had and dealing with fears you never knew existed." - Linda Wooten

"You're always going to wonder if you're doing something wrong. But that's what it means to be a mom. To care so much about someone else that you just want to be as perfect as possible." -Naya Rivera