The Glue That Holds Me Together

March was my glue month. Kit and I had a lot of fun doing some glue crafts together that I hope you all enjoyed as well. I also reflected on my wedding bouquet and the community support Chris and I have always been surrounded by. But then, when it came time to decide what to write about for my month end reflection- I kept coming back to one thought. What is the glue that really holds me together?

To many (and not to all I am sure) but to many I appear organized, in control, on top of things, and just good to go. So here are a few things that I do to keep myself "appearing" on solid ground (I use "appearing" because lets be honest we are all a little hot mess inside at some point or another).

1. Every Sunday (or Monday or whatever day I have time) I plan the week ahead. I use a weekly calendar where I put in my work schedule, garbage day, daycare pick ups, must-dos, would-like-to-dos, meal plans etc.

2. I keep a running list on a paper roll by the kitchen. This is where I put groceries we've run out of, bigger projects to do, babysitting days I need to organize, anything Kit needs or appointments I need to remember to make at some point, house maintenance etc.

3. Synced icalendar with my husband. His schedule is impossible to keep track of so this is a must! We have different coloured calendars for his work, my work, together and other so we always know generally where each other is when we can't be together haha.

4. I do things when I feel motivated, and I am lazy when I feel lazy and try not to feel guilt for this (sometimes easier said then done but I try)

5. I do a form of meditation: I don't have to ability to sit in my house and have silence, but when we drive somewhere I usually have about an hour of quiet (Kit almost always falls asleep- and even if he is awake I am lucky enough he travels really well). This is where I do my thinking and my looking internally at myself and my life. If Chris happens to be with me, this is also a great time for us to have conversations, because what else do you do in the car except have sing alongs of course?

But even doing all of these things to keep my life in order, they weren't the answer to my question. So I looked at the question again "What is the glue that holds me together?" When it really comes down to it- my answer is my husband.

Since becoming a mother, I have indeed "found my calling" so to speak. I have never been more sure of what I was doing and enjoyed (and struggled with) something so much. I have learned that I love being the organizer of our home/office/nutrition/blah blah blah the list goes on. My husband does add to my list of things that I need to organize, yes, but he also gives me the support and appreciation I need in order to do it, and do it well. His job does not leave a lot of extra time, but by him being my sounding board and shoulder to cry on or cuddle with during some of that extra time, he allows me to be my best self. He makes me think steps and steps ahead (though annoying, this is very helpful), he slows me down and keeps things in perspective and most importantly I know that he would drop anything if I asked him to, as he has always put me first.

I hope that everyone out there can find a person who really keeps them balanced. I personally don't think a marriage is being dependant on the other, but being able to be individuals who know they have a person in their corner no matter what. I have found my home in him, and I hope he knows how much he is appreciated. He is the glue that holds ME together- so that I can hold OUR lives together.

So here's a shout out to him and all the wonderful partners out there who support and appreciate their other half. It goes a long way!